How to Deal With Routine

Deal with Routine

If you feel that your life has grown too boring and too repetitive, if the daily routine has a deathly clutch around you that it might seem inevitable then it might be the right time to start switching your stance and working on a way to avoid the routine.

Instead of cursing life and the routine you're going into every single day, why don't you set up a plan to avoid the routine? It isn't that hard! If you have time to think about it, then you have time to avoid the routine.
If you come home every day with your body exhausted and your mind tired then how about a little refreshment?

Yes, time might seem like a deciding factor in all of this, but it really isn't. Setting your schedule correctly and planning your day ahead always helps you with the whole 'time' issue. While you can divide the hours of the day, you can't help being tired after work or training or whatever that is consuming your time.

If your body is too exhausted, then a little nap could be the solution, a long hot shower - or a cold one - or even a cup of coffee could be the answer! Your excuse to stay stuck in the routine is senseless. There is always a way out.
The question is: what is it you want to do? How about going on a road trip with a couple of friends on your day off? Wouldn't that kill the routine standard? Go to the gym; work out when you feel the routine starting to get to you from your office job.

Surprise yourself! Well, not exactly, but at least do something you are not very used to doing. You might as well surprise the people around you, family or friends. Showing up to a party which you couldn't attend in the first place will add exclamation points in your life. It's not about what people expect, but rather about what will keep you going. People who tend to have a stable life usually lose interest faster, so, before getting there, start building up a tower of exceeded expectations with your own self.

It's never too late. Even if you are already too bored of everything in your life, you can get out of the routine and go a little crazy. It's up to you to decide what to do with life, but the boring routine will adjust it for you and it will devour you.

Unorthodox can turn out to be devastating, like a timed bomb, ready to explode at any given second, but so can daily routine. Expose yourself to a little entertainment. Don't stay where you are, but don't go too far away from safety. Your usual lifestyle might not be the answer all the time.

How to Feel Comfortable Having Small Muscles

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Are you a guy who constantly feels self-conscious about how your arms are not muscular enough? Do you dread taking off your shirt at the pool because you're scared you'll be made fun of for your lack of pecs? Many teenage boys and young men feel the embarrassment of having underdeveloped muscles for their age, but don't worry! You're a few simple steps away from loving your body the way it is.


  • Look at yourself in the mirror and look for qualities about yourself that you admire. These could be nice eyes, a nice smile, early beard growth or good hair. Find something about yourself that you love and admire. This will help you to realize there is more to yourself than just a lack of muscle.
  • Highlight that best aspect about yourself in your daily life. If it's your smile, laugh often; if it's your hair, try some hair gel.
  • Avoid wearing clothing that emphasizes a lack of muscles. Do not wear tanktops, singlets or wifebeaters. These sorts of tops will attract attention to your smaller arms. Instead, wear long sleeved shirts, t-shirts with decent sleeve lengths or hoodies.
  • If you still feel insecure, consider working out. Begin slowly working on increasing your muscle size. Start by doing 4 sets of 10 pushups each night. Build up your exercise routine gradually and you will put on muscle. The more you get used to the routine, the less onerous it will seem and soon your arm muscles will begin to shape up.
  • Educate yourself on body building so as to go about it in a sensible, effective way. Purchase a book on body anatomy that details the muscle groups––this internal understanding of your body's muscles can make it a lot easier for you to stay focused and to know the names and purpose of each muscle set. The field of body building is constantly expanding, the more you know about what you're doing, the easier it is to sculpt your muscles to what you want.
  • Don't neglect good nutrition. Staying healthy and eating wholesome foods will ensure that your body has the energy it needs to remain strong. Read about nutrition if you're not already aware of what's good for your body, or talk to your doctor.
  • Observe different sports and the athletes who are very good at them. Sports tone your body in different ways. A swimmer's lean build is muscular but graceful without being bulky, so if you like swimming more than contact sports, take up swimming. It is important to accept the physique that you have and work with it, not against it, to make your physique shine the best it can.
  • Remember that a light build is perfect for some sports and developing agility may make you athletic and popular with the body you've got. Consider martial arts or tai chi if you want a compact, muscular build - remember that generations of women drooled over Bruce Lee far more than Arnold Schwarzenegger.
  • Enjoy the confidence you'll gain from a focused approach to gaining muscles. Building expertise, skill and real strength can create deeper confidence than just sculpting your muscles for appearance. Some of the really big guys become musclebound and aren't as strong as wiry, lanky men. If your build is lean, that's an advantage you might keep for life. Consider adopting a more swashbuckling style––take up fencing and even dress creatively. Some subcultures appreciate a lean build over a bulky one.
  • If someone makes fun of you, try just to blow it off, because if you get into a fight, you'll probably lose. You'll also lose out if you're the one that gets expelled or thrown into jail. This is another good reason to take self defense classes or martial arts, as sometimes the bullies don't stop at words. Tai chi, aikido and other circular forms may be a lot more effective at keeping you out of trouble if a bully attacks you - the fact that you remained calm and defended yourself with minimal force could weigh in your favor when the incident is judged.
  • If you're at high school, the best thing to do with bullies is to avoid them, try not to get their notice and quietly work on getting your school to enforce a strong anti-bullying program.
  • Be patient. People physically mature at different rates. You could go from shrimp to giant within a very few months and embarrass those jerks with your new physique and height. It's often just a case of waiting it out until your own physique blossoms, in its own way and in its own time. In the meantime, keep learning all you can about strength, muscles and exercise.
  • Understand that genetics can play a role in your natural disposition to muscle mass. Disciplined approaches can often help and sometimes overcome this genetic disposition, but not always.


  • If you're overweight and lacking muscle, building up muscle may not reduce the numbers on the scale. Muscle weighs more than fat. Measuring your waist size, real strength and appearance may be more accurate in judging the effectiveness of your new fitness regime.
  • Heavy long sleeved sweaters may make your upper body seem larger, when they're in season.
  • Horizontal stripes will make your upper body seem larger. Dark colors will make any part of your body look thinner, so choose dark pants and horizontal striped shirts or sweaters.
  • Don't expect much or any social support for improving your physique. Chances are the people who pick on your appearance will just jeer more at your attempts to exercise and eat right, that's the way cruel people are. The key to keeping up a diet/exercise habit is to make it a habit and reward yourself for success in small daily increments. It is an achievement every time you stick to your exercise plan. Twice as big if anyone picked on you and you did it anyway.
  • If you blog your progress, others who are working out may find you inspiring and compliment your results - especially if you reciprocate on their public records. Try to organize a group either local or online because it's easier to find support when you're giving support. Encouraging others is the best way to find encouraging others.


  • Avoid any type of fighting over your appearance. It's pointless and you can be injured.
  • Avoid wearing tight shirts that draw attention to your arms and chest.

Things You'll Need

  • Anatomy book
  • T-shirts, long-sleeved tops, hoodies
  • Exercise routine

How to Deal With a Friend Who Needs to Be the Center of Attention

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A round-up on dealing with a friend who always hogs the limelight and forgets to bring you into the action.


  • Don't spend too much time with this kind of person, don't avoid them like the plague but don't be their best friend
  • Don't try to change them, we are how we are and you can't change another person, you can only change yourself
  • Allow them to be themselves, don't try to make them feel uncomfortable, shout/talk them down, point out that they never shut up or try to compete for attention, all you can legitimately do is try to spend less time with them and keep them at arms length
  • If you really need to tell them something, maybe try a 'funny' knock, such as 'and now lets talk about someone else!', 'really, that is something you had failed to tell me... wow'
  • Understand that this person probably knows exactly how they are behaving and that it is annoying but have grown accustomed to acting this way or lack the confidence to think people will notice them without their being the center of attention, really they need sympathy


  • avoid them
  • don't try to change them
  • don't try to fit in with them

Things You'll Need

  • Iron will power not to try to challenge them

How to Handle a Long Distance Relationship

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Sometimes mistakes can be made during a long distance relationship. This article shows how to avoid some of them.


  • Be sure there is trust in the relationship. The main fruit of keeping a long distance relationship is trust, you have to be able to trust your partner. It's difficult to do that because you don't really know what goes on on the other side.

  • Have patience. You signed up for this you need to wait.
  • Communicate. Another important key, where possible communicate daily by email text or chat. Discuss interesting topics. Keep the discussion healthy. Forget the world and the problems. Show it to each other that the long distance is working for you. Tell your girl or guy you love him every time you communicate. It won't hurt. Remember somehow to make up for the time you had apart.
  • 4Be understanding especially in writing. It's easy to misinterpret things during a course of a conversation. Take time to understand what your partner is saying. As wrong as it may sound you may just conclude something, that you will lose out on. Keep calm.
  • 5Keep things fresh. Don't always call at the same time on the same day. Predictability can make any relationship dull.
  • 6Make sacrifices. Love is kind. You sacrifice many things for love. What ever may come up during you stay alone when you are lonely waitng for your love. There some things. Good things will come up. That is what you need to sacrifice.
  • 7Make sure you don't take up too much time. He or she could be at school or work. Don't go over the top. You both have your lives to lead. You both need your space.
  • 8Show that you mean it when you say that you love your girl or guy.
  • 9Mind the time difference if there is one.


  • What you don't know won't hurt you. Don't dig for information unless you are told it.
  • If your doubts build up don't push him or her away.


  • Do not break up just yet. Ask yourself "why are you in the relationship in the first place?"
  • Be prepared for any response.
  • Do not take it too personally.
  • Don't listen to rumours, trust in your own judgement.
  • If anything happens, let it go and start fresh

6 Tips on How to Attract Women

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Attracting women is a skill. Unfortunately, most guys have never had the chance to learn it. If you run out ideas on how to attract women, then you aren't alone. There are a billion other guys who you share this trait with but fortunately for you, you've just found the right answer to your problem. From now onwards you do not have to rank among the millions, it's your time to stand out from the rest and start attracting women. Here is some advice on how to attract women:


Tip #1 Avoid Being Too Clingy
This might appear like just any other obvious tip but have you ever taken sometime to re-consider its implications? When you are dating a woman for the first few days do you tend to be too much all over her? If so, then you are just being too clingy. Women don't like guys who appear to be too needy and overprotective; so just give her some space. Always give her the chance to think and don't pile any form of pressure on her. Eventually she'll just turn herself in for you.

Tip #2 Flirt
If you want to win the full attention of a woman, then start practicing a few flirting moves. Though flirting might be awkward in some instances, the truth of the matter is that most women like to be flirted. Don't just put too many words with no actions. As much as you can try, engage it with some level of body contact, it works wonders! At the same time you have to be careful not to overdo it to the extent of causing any form of embarrassment.

Tip #3 Work On Your Confidence and Charisma
Women tend to be more attracted to confident and charismatic guys. Shy and dormant people rarely get noticed. Women like hanging around prominent people, people who seem to leave an impact on the social scenes. So building your confidence with women is definitely a topic to read up on. So, if you tend to avoid being social, it's a high time you upped your game.

Tip #4 Apply the Laws of Attraction
I'm sure that you've heard of this one as well. All the magazines, novels and research papers talk about it. These laws state that men and women act like opposite magnet poles. As a man you'll tend to be turned on just by the woman's physical appearance. On the other hand, a woman focuses more on the desire to develop a relationship with you. As you can see, as a man you'll chose to focus more on the physical aspects, women tend to focus more on your individual qualities. Not only will they admire your physical appearance but they'll also tend to concentrate more on your individual attributes. In order to reap the most from the laws of attraction, always be confident. You also need to practice a thorough way of communicating your string of thoughts without being overly offensive or too docile.

Tip #5 Don't Be Mr. Nice
As we all know, being nice is considered as one of the best social attributes in the entire world. Well, on the other hand, women don't like hanging around men who pretend to be too nice. Just as we have seen earlier, let your confidence with women reign supreme. At the same time this doesn't mean that you end up becoming a jerk. You need to find a perfect balance between these two extremes.

Tip #6 Avoid Being Too Pushy
Never ever waste your time trying to convince a woman to do something she doesn't appear to be interested in. In 99% of the cases that I have come across, convincing never works. So, instead of pushing her further and further with no avail, simply try to create other alternatives for her. Try as much as possible to understand her but at the same time don't let her overrule your role in the relationship. If you just realize that a woman is no longer attracted to you, don't bother yourself too much. Just move on, you'll find another opportunity ahead.

You'll never go wrong on applying any of the above mentioned tips. Most importantly, you have to always remember that attraction is a process. Avoid rushing things, just take your time and you'll reap the benefits.

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How To Communicate Effectively In Angry Situations

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Anger is a difficult feeling to deal with. Some people have the innate ability to review and discuss problems for a positive resolution. However, some lack control over their anger which impedes success in everyday life. This uncontrollable personality trait can lead to loss of jobs, loss of close relationships, and general unhappiness.
One of the biggest issues surrounding uncontrollable anger is poor communication skills. The person is unable to resolve problems in an effective way because they don't know how to discuss and work out the situation with the person they are angry with. Anger will be bottled up inside, until it finally explodes with verbal abuse or violent physical act. Upsetting words and actions from people does not need to be tolerated. There are steps to take to properly communicate your anger.

Tip #1: State Everything in "I" Instead of "You"
This is a strategy that is effective and can be learned. When communicating your anger state how you feel, not what the other person has done. For example, say "I feel very bad and embarrassed whenever you yell at me in front of our friends" instead of "You should not yell at me in front of our friends". If you choose this approach, the person you are talking to will not focus on the single fact that you are angry and acting crazy. He will focus on the fact that what he did made you feel bad. If the conversation goes well, it will definitely end with an apology.

Tip #2: Learn to Listen
Your need to talk should be equal to your need to listen. No matter how mad you are, always try to listen to their side of the story and put yourself in their shoes. Remember that communication is not only expressing what you feel but also taking into consideration what others feel. Furthermore, empathize with the person you are talking to. Make them feel that you want everything to be well for the both of you and that you understand his side.

Tip #3: Negotiation
Many conflicts are left unresolved because of poor skills in compromising. Negotiating how both parties can meet in the middle is important. If you can learn to give a little, then both sides will feel like they have each received a bit of what they were looking for. Compromising is often the only way to satisfy both sides of the argument and find a resolution. It may not be exactly what you want but will do a good job of getting you there eventually.

To deepen your education in controlling your temper, taking anger management classes is highly suggested. Quality courses designed by a licensed, practicing anger management specialist can be found online. Web-based classes give you the freedom to take them any time of the day or night without having to leave the comfort of your own home. You will learn tips on how to manage your anger, what to do when you feel like you are going to explode, and how to implement new skills into your everyday life. Taking the classes online in a more relaxed atmosphere is conducive to a successful outcome.

Ari Novick, Ph.D. is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Anger Management Professional and trainer. He has a Bachelors degree in English Literature from the University of California at Santa Barbara; a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University; and a Ph.D in Clinical Psychology from the California Graduate Institute.

Dr. Ari Novick is a practicing psychotherapist in Laguna Beach, California. He provides world class Anger Management Classes Online as well as weekly anger classes in his office.

5 Simple Ways To Ease Your Worries

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Everyone has worries from time to time. Money, relationships, family issues, emotional distress - it can all add up and make your mind spin. Take a look at these five simple ways to ease worry. Try one the next time you feel stressed and see what works for you.

1) Write Out A List Of Your Concerns
Sometimes it helps to just get your worries out of your head. The act of writing it all out can take the load off your mind and put it onto a sheet of paper. Once you get everything out into the open, you may get a clearer picture on what's really important and what's not. You can see which problems you don't have control over, aren't very important, or you could actually do something about. If nothing else, writing everything out can be a release so your head doesn't feel so jumbled. Your mind can clear and you can feel more relaxed.

2) Laugh A Little
Got worries? Find your funny bone. You probably know the funny movies and TV shows that will get you giggling. Find a friend who is usually upbeat and see how your mood changes when you're around them. When you laugh, your body releases endorphins, the body's "feel-good" chemicals. This produces a feeling of well-being and happiness. Laughter is a physical activity that puts many of your muscles to work all at once. They feel more relaxed when your wave of laughter subsides. Plus, laughing simply puts you in a better mood for a little while. Even though your problems are still there, you may be able to face them with a smile.

3) Walk Away Your Worries
This is another endorphin releasing activity. Get your blood pumping a little and your heart will be racing for a good reason. The more you help your body associate physical arousal with healthy activity, the better your body will learn to relax itself. The cycle of tension and relaxation that goes with exercise and recovery is very good for your body. Relaxed muscles will help your mind feel calm. Also, getting a little exercise can be a good way to put your mind on something other than your worries. Remember to listen to music or watch the scenery go by as you walk.

4) What's The Worst That Could Happen?
In a typical counseling session, you might be asked to think of the worst case scenario for your biggest worry. It might not seem so bad if you come right out and say it (to yourself or to someone else). Fear does its best work within the dark shadows of your mind. The more you hide from your fears the more they'll own you. Shedding light on the worst possible scenario can help you understand how unlikely it might really be. Once you put things in perspective, your mind will be more at ease.

5) Distraction Disrupts The Momentum
Believe it or not, the conscious brain can't focus on more than one thing at a time. This is good news for someone with lots of worries. When you focus on everything that concerns you all the time, your problems can seem to grow by the minute. Just giving your brain a break from your worries can help them seem a little smaller the next time you think about them. Simply do something you can get caught up in for a short while like house chores, a favorite movie, a phone call to a loved one, or a good book.

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